gah i do that and it wont connect or even take it really maybe i should just give up
You can't give up until you reach the white castle!! eh..anyway, make sure that you click 'ok' after you have entered the server address.
The easiest way, I guess, is actually to click on 'edit' and simply edit some old DAL, or EFNET server and change it to anynet.org.
Then you need to click 'connect to IRC' server after it's saved.
Also, if you are behind some firewall/router e.t.c then the default port for IRC is 6667 if I remember correctly.